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Question by acissej: How can I heal after a break-up with a great guy (Christian perspective)?
I have been in an on and off relationship with a great guy for the past five years. He is intelligent, sweet, hard-working, affectionate, caring, and very helpful. You might be thinking why in the world did you break up with this guy and to be honest I wonder about the same thing every second. However, the thing that he does not have is initiative. I just feel like I have to tell him where to go, what to do, what to help me with, what to do next in life, etc. He does all this things if I tell him to, but I don’t want to be pushing him every second. I feel exhausted all the time and I feel like he does this things because he loves me and not because he wants to. I also think that if I have to tell him to do all these things I might as well do them myself or be alone for that matter.

For all this time we have been dating he has talked to me about all these wonderful plans and dreams that he wants to accomplish but so far he hasn’t done any of them. He says that if I would be more expressive of my love (and I don’t mean physically) he would be able to do all this things I want of him, but since I need to see all those things to feel loved (all the things he is great at + goals and doing things to accomplish them) I always been kind of hesitant about actually marrying him. I need that because I am a very service oriented person and I am always thinking where I can help in Church and my community and what plans God has for me in this area. I am always involved in some sort of community service or church service and I feel I need a guy that likes to do all these things as well. Not to be busy all the time, but to serve as God called us to serve. Am I doing something wrong here? Am I being immature? I have not been on many relationships myself. Should I get back with him? This is the reason why we have been dating on and off for all this time and because this has always been a long distance relationship.

Another factor is that I become a Christian during the time we have been together. He did too after a long wait from me, but we are in different levels of commitment to Christ and that also makes me feel like I am the one leading the relationship and he follows. As I understand it (correct me if I am wrong) the guy is the one who is supposed to lead the relationship, not the girl. I don’t want to be with a guy who only wants his way, but I don’t want a guy that only does what I tell him to do either.

Please help! As you can see, I need answers from a Christian perspective. And if you are a single Christian guy that meets the qualities I am looking for please contact me. I at least need to know that these guys still exist.

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Answer by MOs fishin
Life is complicated like that, and even when we think it might be God’s plan, even his plans can change, later in life you will see. Keep your faith and things always work out for the best. But you are right a guy is suppose to lead in the relationship.

Good Luck and God Bless

MO

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Question by kyle s: is it bad for a christian guy to mastubate when he single and his true love live far away and they never meet?
i totaly in love with this girl in the phillipean crazy i know since i live alway in the states well anyways i been trying to keep my body poor for her but time to time i give in and mastubated dont know why it just happens i get really bored and start to. i dont know i guess what i asking is this wrong for a single guy to masturbate especailly since i am a chirstian do u think this is something God created to releave sexual stress of being a virign and have the only girl u tottaly love live so fair away.

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Answer by Mikey
No, it’s okay to masturbate! Wack a way!

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Question by zoeilene: Christian dating?
I was just wondering what some fellow Christians think…how far is too far to go in a relationship? I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months now and although it doesn’t sound like long, I am completely in love with him. And I know he feels the same way. I made the decision a long time ago to save myself until marriage and I will absolutely keep that promise to myself and God. My boyfriend is not a virgin but completely supports and respects my decision. He never pressures me to do anything and always makes sure I am comfortable. But my question is…how far can you go without being inappropriate? Is it ok to make out and touch? Again, I can’t stress this enough, we are not having sex of any kind. And also, if it matters, I am 23 and he is 29. Thank you in advance for your answers.

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Answer by siylencedogood
The best thing we can do is not put ourselves in the position to be tempted. If you do anything that even begins to tempt you to go against what you know to be right. If you do anything that provides the opportunity for sin, it would be best not to continue doing it. It is very easy to go beyond what our intentions are “and get caught up in the moment.”

The more time you give to focus on the physical, the less you focus on the spiritual. 3 months is a very short time to be together anyway…use this time to determine if this person is the right one for you to marry, learn about his beliefs/doctrine, about kids, schools, political views, aspirations, his calling, his preferences for entertainment, sports, etc etc..things that would cause you to not marry this person…that is what this time is for…(addition) because if he is not the right one…you can move on and find the right one.

The physical comes when we are married…as a gift to us. There is no other reason for a Christian to date, or to have a relationship than with “the intention” to be married according to God’s will. If the goal/intent is not marriage…to find a husband, then there is no point to the relationship.

Take Care and God Bless!

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Question by NC christian classy lady!!!: Single Parent…..Genuine/Real Christian? Am I the only one?!?
With so many people “proclaiming Christianity” how do I get to meet people who are ginuinely in love with Christ? I go to church but the people there are much older or younger or married. I would love to have female and male friends to hang out with on the weekends or to conversate with for encouragement, opinions, or revelation but its hard to meet christian people, especially REAL christians! What do I do? My daughter and I end up spending weekends at home or finding things to do at church. Im happy with that but I want to do some recreational things to enjoy myself also and Im quite sure my daughter would love to have someone her age to play with also. What do I do? Fellowshiping with other churches seem to be ok but its the same thing either older, younger, or married people there too. Where are all the 25-30 christians I can fellowship with?

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Answer by starrwoode
there are even christian dating services , if you ask your pastor if he knows of others in your age range in the area he might be able to point you toward fellowship of other christians in your area. good luck

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