by Tomathon

Question by connie24sue: Is Internet dating really safe?
I have met a few guys on the internet but is this really a good way. We have met in person and have had good times together even though the relationships did not work out. I have a hard time meeting guys because I do not have much of a social person alone. I am 37 years old and most of my friends are married. Some say that Church is a good source but I live in a small community but work in the city during the week. What is the best way to meet gentlemen? Has anyone done Christian Singles before?

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Answer by Jimmy Z
Online is as safe/dangerous as any other community. The difference is that you are not introduced by a friend who knows them.

I met my wife on line, and we have been together for 7 years now. However there are some guidelines when dating online.

1. Always meet in a public/neutral place
2. Even if you are ok with intimacy on the first date, get to know this person, and people they know very well first. This is a safety thing, not a prudish thing.
3. Always figure out why they are looking online as well. In your case, you are shy. But there may be something wrong with the person you find online, which is why they are there.
4. Google, Google, Google. Always do background checks.

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by Sonia Kiss

Question by donleyso: Are there any christian singles computer groups that don’t cost too much?

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Answer by Mr Wesley
It really depends on what’s “too much.” I’ve heard that eHarmony is exceptionally good, and while they are not specifically Christian per se, they do focus on the spiritual aspects of relationships and you can set your filters to only accept Christians.

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by Wootang01

Question by acissej: How can I heal after a break-up with a great guy (Christian perspective)?
I have been in an on and off relationship with a great guy for the past five years. He is intelligent, sweet, hard-working, affectionate, caring, and very helpful. You might be thinking why in the world did you break up with this guy and to be honest I wonder about the same thing every second. However, the thing that he does not have is initiative. I just feel like I have to tell him where to go, what to do, what to help me with, what to do next in life, etc. He does all this things if I tell him to, but I don’t want to be pushing him every second. I feel exhausted all the time and I feel like he does this things because he loves me and not because he wants to. I also think that if I have to tell him to do all these things I might as well do them myself or be alone for that matter.

For all this time we have been dating he has talked to me about all these wonderful plans and dreams that he wants to accomplish but so far he hasn’t done any of them. He says that if I would be more expressive of my love (and I don’t mean physically) he would be able to do all this things I want of him, but since I need to see all those things to feel loved (all the things he is great at + goals and doing things to accomplish them) I always been kind of hesitant about actually marrying him. I need that because I am a very service oriented person and I am always thinking where I can help in Church and my community and what plans God has for me in this area. I am always involved in some sort of community service or church service and I feel I need a guy that likes to do all these things as well. Not to be busy all the time, but to serve as God called us to serve. Am I doing something wrong here? Am I being immature? I have not been on many relationships myself. Should I get back with him? This is the reason why we have been dating on and off for all this time and because this has always been a long distance relationship.

Another factor is that I become a Christian during the time we have been together. He did too after a long wait from me, but we are in different levels of commitment to Christ and that also makes me feel like I am the one leading the relationship and he follows. As I understand it (correct me if I am wrong) the guy is the one who is supposed to lead the relationship, not the girl. I don’t want to be with a guy who only wants his way, but I don’t want a guy that only does what I tell him to do either.

Please help! As you can see, I need answers from a Christian perspective. And if you are a single Christian guy that meets the qualities I am looking for please contact me. I at least need to know that these guys still exist.

Best answer:

Answer by MOs fishin
Life is complicated like that, and even when we think it might be God’s plan, even his plans can change, later in life you will see. Keep your faith and things always work out for the best. But you are right a guy is suppose to lead in the relationship.

Good Luck and God Bless

MO

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by kern.justin

Question by Andie: All the single Christian ladies…are you happy too?
We live in a relationship-minded society, in which singles are portrayed in movies as lonely TV-dinner-eating cat owners with longings for a special person to make them whole. Within churches especially, there seems to be a surge of singles groups and Christian dating services. Within this culture, there seems to be little room for the single 30-ish Christian woman who is actually happy with her life as it is. When people find out that I am 30 years old, not in a relationship (and not actively searching for one), and actually happy, I tend to get variations of the following reactions:

“You can’t really be happy. You must be in denial.”
“Oh, you’ll know what happiness is when you’re married, dear.”
“Single? Really? Why do you have relationship phobias?

I acknowledge the joy that can come with marriage, and I am happy for my friends who are happily married. But I wonder if I am really so rare. Surely there are other women out there who are not jaded by negative past relationships, but rather simply love their lives and do not feel the need to join a singles group to feel fulfilled. Well…are there?

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Answer by SJC
I am perfectly happy being single.

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